It is inevitable in life that we will be faced with challenges and choices. How we overcome and respond to them is what defines us and builds our character. The desired outcome of these choices and challenges is usually happiness or peace with in. What choice or move can I make to bring myself back to a “happy zone”?
I have found a very simple technique that has helped me make tough decisions much easier. I sit down, pen in hand, and I write out traits and morals I highly value. I recollected situations that had caused me mental disarray and dissected them to see what is happening to tweak that emotion. What value is being challanged. I realized a few things about myself. I learned that two of the most valued things I feel passionate about and have the ability to upset my inner peace when not congruent with are respect and self empowerment.
I wrote these down, and added two more which I greatly value to compile the following list. Respect, self empowerment, trust and (this is side by side with self empowerment) following your dreams with all your heart. I have these four things listed on a white board in my room where I can see them every day. When i am faced with a decision whether it be at work, with my family, with my schedule or with my future, I look at this list. Is this choice I am making congruent with my core beliefs? Is it congruent with what brings me peace?
The answer no longer becomes such a grey area. It is very black and white. I know right away, or a lot sooner what the best decision for me is. It has proven time and time again to send me down the right path in life. The path that brings me happiness.